Top 10 Questions Families Ask About the Cremation Process (With Clear Answers)

For many families, cremation is a deeply personal choice—but it's also one that comes with questions, especially for those unfamiliar with the process. Whether you're planning in advance or navigating a recent loss, knowing what to expect can bring peace of mind.

In this guide, we answer the top questions families ask about the cremation process, from how it works to what happens afterward.

1. What is cremation, exactly?

Cremation is a method of final disposition that uses high heat and flame to reduce the body to bone fragments, which are then processed into fine ash. These cremated remains—often referred to simply as “ashes”—are then returned to the family in an urn or temporary container.

2. How long does the cremation process take?

The actual cremation takes about 2 to 3 hours, depending on the size and weight of the individual. However, the total process—from preparation to returning the ashes—can take 3 to 10 business days, depending on the funeral provider and whether permits or death certificates are pending.

3. Is embalming required before cremation?

No. Embalming is not required unless there's a public viewing or specific cultural/religious practices that call for it. Cremation can proceed without embalming, which is one reason why many families choose it as a simpler, more natural option.

4. Can we have a funeral or memorial service with cremation?

Absolutely. Cremation doesn’t replace the opportunity for a service—it expands the possibilities.

Families can choose to:

• Hold a service before cremation with the body present (with or without embalming)

• Have a memorial service after cremation, with the urn displayed

• Scatter ashes during a personalized remembrance ceremony

5. What happens to items like jewelry or medical implants during cremation?

Before cremation, funeral staff will typically remove any jewelry or personal items, if instructed by the family. Medical devices like pacemakers must be removed, as they can explode under heat. After cremation, any metal fragments (like surgical screws or dental fillings) are separated from the ashes using magnets and respectfully disposed of.

6. What do the ashes look like?

Despite the term "ashes," the remains are a fine, sand-like substance in shades of gray or white. They weigh around 3 to 7 pounds for an average adult and are typically returned in a sealed plastic bag inside a temporary container or urn of your choice.

7. How do I know I’m receiving the right ashes?

Reputable crematories follow strict chain-of-custody and identification procedures. Most providers use metal ID tags that accompany the body throughout the process. You can ask your cremation provider to explain their process for added peace of mind.

8. What happens to the ashes afterward?

After cremation, families have several options:

• Keep the ashes in an urn at home

• Bury the urn in a cemetery or memorial garden

• Place the urn in a columbarium niche

• Scatter the ashes in a meaningful place (as permitted by local law)

• Divide the ashes among family using keepsake urns or cremation jewelry

9. Is cremation less expensive than burial?

In most cases, yes. Cremation is often more affordable than traditional burial, especially if families choose direct cremation (without embalming, viewing, or formal service). Costs vary, but cremation can significantly reduce expenses related to caskets, cemetery plots, vaults, and headstones.

10. Is cremation accepted by all religions?

Not all, but many. Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, and Unitarianism generally accept cremation. Islam and Orthodox Judaism traditionally oppose it. It’s always a good idea to check with your faith leader or community before making a decision based on religious preferences.

Final Thoughts

Cremation is a respectful, flexible, and increasingly common choice. But it’s also deeply personal. The most important thing is that you feel informed and supported as you make decisions for your loved one—or plan your own arrangements.

If you still have questions, our caring team is here to walk you through the process with clarity and compassion.